Monday, February 13, 2006

The Largest Misconceptions of Anal Intercourse

Anal sex is a delicate subject, exactly because it's a delicate part of the body we're dealing with, but there are many myths to be broken when it comes to anal play.

Most people believe that anal intercourse hurts and that it is always an uncomfortable experience. This is quite simply false. As with any form of intercourse, the anus, like the vagina, must become used to the activity. Any woman who remembers her first time having sex probably recalls a painful experience. In fact, the first couple of times were probably painful and not that enjoyable. Did they stop having sex? In almost all cases, they didn’t. Anal intercourse falls under the same guidelines for both genders; it takes practice to get accustomed to the activity. Pain is usually a sign that something is being performed incorrectly, not that the act is wrong. In most cases pain is due to a few reasons: the receiver is too tense and tightening, the giver is pushing too hard, there isn’t enough lubricant, or that the penis or toy is still too big to put in (based on current experience levels). Using fingers and smaller toys is the best way to get used to the feeling, and it is advised that you increase size a little at a time. Once you have become comfortable with the idea and concepts you will probably find it very pleasurable.

Monday, February 06, 2006

Car Sex Positions

Sex on the car is one of the most exciting pleasures we can have. Read more about the positions and have fun practicing.
Wraparound
A classic car Kama Sutra pose. The woman sits on the hood, wraps her legs around the man's waist and supports herself with her arms, leaning back. She can control the motion by thrusting with her pelvis, or pulling him towards her with her legs. She may also brace her feet on the car bumper on either side of him for better leverage.
The Bridge
The woman lays back on the hood with the man standing in front of her between her legs. She lifts her legs so that she can hook the back of her heels over her partner's shoulders. The woman then tilts her pelvis up to straighten her back, lining her crotch up with the thrusting of his cock. The man can support her lower back with his hands, and lean back slightly. The woman can vary the angle of her pelvis for better G-spot or clitoral stimulation. This position allows for deep penetration and will make you both feel like porn stars.
The Wheelbarrow
This one is a bit acrobatic and requires some upper body strength from both partners. The woman lays her upper body face down on the car hood or trunk. The man lifts her legs up and holds them spread apart as he fucks her from behind. The woman can also wrap her legs around the man's waist (crossing her ankles behind her back) for extra support. This positions gives the man a nice view of his partner's backside, and is good for G-spot stimulation.

Are You Sexual?

Our sexuality is a very important part of who we are, we must accept that and take the responsibilities for our choices.

We are all sexual. Our sexuality includes :
our bodies
our genders — male or female
our gender identities — how we feel about our gender
our sexual orientations — straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual
our values about life, love, and the people in our lives
Some of the most difficult decisions in life are about sex. They can affect our plans for school, career, our lifestyles, relationships, and families. Whatever sexual decisions you make, choose ones that help you feel proud of yourself.
Sexual expression is one of our basic human needs like water, food, and shelter. It can be a positive source of personal enrichment and satisfaction when it is based on mature, informed, and responsible choices.

Sex and Relationships

Woman and man relate sex to love in a very distinct way. We need to learn to recognize our differences and respect each other's spaces.
Most adults would agree that a regular pattern of sexual intercourse is one of the most important elements for a stable and satisfying romantic relationship. Research shows that couples who are physically/sexually compatible generally report higher levels of relationship satisfaction, compared to couples who have sexual difficulties.
For men, sexual contact is one of the best methods for creating and maintaining relational closeness. More directly, men will often seek sex as a way of relieving stress, expressing strong feelings, and as a preferred method for connecting. Most men will agree that they are visually stimulated, and able to become aroused quite quickly.
For women, though, sexual contact is more complex. Women experience sexual arousal in a more diffuse way than men, meaning that a woman will become aroused through a combination of thoughts, feelings, sights and sounds. This delicate interplay can mean the difference between "sorry honey, not tonight" and "sorry honey, no way".
While all women, at some point, will decline sexual advances, the more frequent these denials, the greater the possibility that the woman is experiencing low sexual desire or low libido. Low libido, in women, is generally defined as a decreased interest or decreased desire in sexual contact, as well as difficulties becoming aroused or climaxing during sex.

Variety is the Spice of Your Sex Life

Everybody needs a change once in a while, a relationship can stand a long time of the same sex positions and techniques, so let's vary!
A group of college students (men and women) were shown the same sexually explicit video once a day for four days. Most of them were turned on the first time they saw the video. But by the third day, their reactions were muted. By the fourth day, some of them were bored. On the fifth day, the researchers showed a new video -- the same actors, new sexual technique. Arousal soared, to just about the same level as day one.
Do human beings need variation in their lovemaking? You bet. Whether you have one partner or many, creativity in the bedroom will keep you passionate about sex. There are many ways that you can add variety -- positions, sex toys, location, and more (don't worry, we'll get to it all in a minute!). But one thing that most couples forget to consider, according to Pat Love, the author of Hot Monogamy, is varying their lovemaking style. That is, changing the amount of time and effort devoted to your sexual encounters.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is one of the most enjoyable sensations a man can experience. But we also wanna learn how to please a woman and show her the greatest sensations of oral sex.
This isn't an attack. Don't go after the clitoris like a fireman attacking a fire. Quite often at first, the clitoris is far too sensitive for direct stimulation. Lick around it, stimulating the hood, teasing her inner labia, tasting her. Take your time and listen to her. Some women make noise, and some do not. It will be a while before you learn exactly what your lover prefers as far as oral sex is concerned.Some women may like additional stimulation - a finger or two into the vagina, or perhaps even the anus. She may want your hands to reach up and play with her breasts, or she may want your fingers to hold her labia apart so that your tongue can get at her vulva more directly.
If the taste or smell bothers you or is a concern, ask her to wash first. Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean vagina is a good, if acquired, taste.As a woman nears her climax, she may want more direct stimulation. In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing climax- but there shouldn't be a rush to get there. Take your time and learn to appreciate what you can do for her.